MARRIAGE

You can’t trust yourself. Take time to heal.

You can’t trust yourself. Take time to heal.

While I was married to my first wife,  I used to cherish the rare moments I would get alone. During those quiet moments, I was able to re-calibrate and get a sense of self that I couldn't have with three screaming kids, a nagging wife and all that work. A day to just...

You can’t beat emotion. Stop trying.

You can’t beat emotion. Stop trying.

On this site, my most popular podcasts and articles are by far the ones dealing with Dead Bedrooms. The next most popular topics are about Infidelity. On the way more popular website Talk About Marriage, the two most popular "focused" topics are "Coping with...

“My wife wouldn’t do that.”

“My wife wouldn’t do that.”

When I talk about my own personal "awakening" during post-divorce life,  I usually mean in terms of recognizing the underlying truths in relationships and the psychology of my fellow humans, ladies in particular. Accepting REALITY and not what SHOULD be, in other...

Lying

Lying

The most insidious and oft-overlooked red flag in the giant book of red flags is without a doubt LYING. Lying is so pervasive that we even have a term for the more "innocent" ones: "little white lies". How about "fib"? Sounds like a name for a little hamster. Fibster....

Baggage

Baggage

Here's a common term in the world of relationships: BAGGAGE. "Baggage" is another word for all the negative shit that happened to you in the past and that is presumably deeply embedded in your psyche and ready to bubble up at a moment's notice.  After a marriage...

My Story – Part 2 – My Holy Shit Moment Has Arrived

My Story – Part 2 – My Holy Shit Moment Has Arrived

So my wife starts working with the personal trainer. She literally spends at least 2 hours each day at the gym.. and longer on weekends. How the hell does she accomplish this? She gets up at 4:00am every single day. This is her mission now.  This is on top of her very...

My Story – Part 1 – The Beginning

My Story – Part 1 – The Beginning

Things I hear a lot from guys online: "Well, did YOU ever run into this..." or "What did YOU do when this happened to you?" I just realized,...I never really did share my full story with the world. I hinted at it a bit in the About Me page,  but I haven't gone into...

My One Marriage Counseling Experience

My One Marriage Counseling Experience

How the hell did I get here? I'm seated across from a very nice and motherly marriage counselor. My wife is next to me. Tissue in hand. Dabbing at her eyes. I have somehow held back my tears. I don't know why, but I just poured out my life story to the counselor. It...

Keeping Your Woman from Approaching “The Line”

Keeping Your Woman from Approaching “The Line”

Let's be really blunt here for a moment. Monogamy.. it just ain't right. And by "right", I mean... it just doesn't make biological sense. It goes against the strongest of forces: Our primal urge. I am a firm believer in science. Crazy, I know. Science tells me that we...

Dissecting Dead Bedrooms

Dissecting Dead Bedrooms

My own personal experience and that of thousands of other men who have been married and/or dated will tell you the same thing: If your woman is crazy about you, you will know it. She will leave zero doubt. She will shower you with praise. She will have her hands all...

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