Hello, I’m the Dad Starting Over.

I’m  a divorced father of three kids who had his life turned upside-down when his wife had an affair and filed for divorce.

Over the past several years I have reprogrammed myself to become an overall happier and more successful dude. I’ve helped dozens of men do the same. Please feel free to read through my site and learn more about my philosophies and advice about relationships and this game we call “being a man in this crazy world”.

MY BOOKS

“Great read so far! The first few chapters have given me so much clarity on the crap I’ve been trying to get my head around. I keep going back and re-reading things! Many thanks – helping me get through things one horrible step at a time.” – Greg

This was exactly what I needed to read. It helped me a lot. I can start to see the light at the end of the tunnel. It’s been a tough year but I can see I have a lot of great stuff to be thankful for and to look forward to. Thanks!” – Jake

“Wow, just wow!! I downloaded today, worked 10 hours and couldn’t stop reading your book. I finished it today!  I can’t believe how you hit the nail on the head so many times!!!” – Rick

“I just finished The Dead Bedroom Fix and I feel like you have been following my wife and I around with a camera and microphone.  You made me aware of everything I have been doing wrong. Thank you!” – Shawn

LATEST ARTICLES

Losing Those Last Few Pounds

Losing Those Last Few Pounds

I have a personal goal right now... and that is to be a very lean and mean 190 lbs. I started around 203 lbs several weeks back, and now I'm at around 195. Little bit yet to go... and it has NOT been easy. Why It's Hard When you get to "in pretty good shape" levels of...

How to be a Better Wife

How to be a Better Wife

Once in a blue moon, I get an email from a female reader. You may think most of it is complaining or expressing their anger towards me… and you’d be right. I have, in fact, been called an “incel” and a misogynist (which is laughably off the mark), but I’ve also...

“Should I take her back?”

“Should I take her back?”

 (Here is a common scenario from my readers: Man and wife have a boring sexual relationship. They both work. Kids. Stress. Blah existence. Wife angry and tired most of the time. Husband frustrated. He doesn't feel validated and appreciated. Man discovers wife affair....

MOST POPULAR ARTICLES

Seven Signs That Your Wife is Cheating

Seven Signs That Your Wife is Cheating

As I outlined in "My Wife Wouldn't Do That" , there is a phenomenon of bewildered and shocked men that just CANNOT believe their wife would be capable of doing awful things like committing infidelity. Even when presented with ongoing warning signs and conclusive...

Dissecting Dead Bedrooms

Dissecting Dead Bedrooms

We all know the tried-and-true stereotype of the typical modern day marriage: Man is horny and ready to go at any time. Even though his wife is older, heavier and not nearly as bubbly and sweet as she was in the honeymoon stage of their early relationship, he still...

Why Did She “Affair Down”?

Why Did She “Affair Down”?

Many times, when a guy tells me about his wife’s affair partner, he will start rattling off reasons why the loser is the absolute opposite of what you would expect from a “typical” affair partner: 1. He has a horrible job. 2. Everyone thinks he’s a loser. 3. He lives...

Dad Starting Over

ABOUT ME

Hi there, I’m the DSO (Dad Starting Over).  My story is not an unusual one. For those who just stumbled upon this site by chance and have no connection to the subject matter… it may seem a bit “out there”. Trust me… it’s common. For the rest of us, you came here for a reason: You need to hit the restart button on life and redefine what it means to be a MAN in today’s world. You need a boost up over the wall and you’re scrambling for any little nugget of wisdom that will help you climb that extra inch.

Why a restart? Well, maybe life just kicked you in the teeth. If you’re like me and thousands of other grown men… you were  told “I want a divorce”, or worse… you discovered infidelity. Your entire worldview has changed. Your head is spinning. What you thought was innocent and comfortable is now twisted and scary. Welcome to the real world, my friend. I’ve been there and done that.

My philosophies and advice are not cookie-cutter. They’re not politically correct. They’re not always nice. But.. they work. They make sense. They get results.

Want to know more about me? A great place to start is here:

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