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Hello, I’m the

Dad Starting Over.

Are you a man starting over in life? Still married but want to hit the restart button on your relationship? Divorced and don’t want to make all the same mistakes again? Feeling lost and not sure where to turn?

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LATEST ARTICLES

Were There Dead Bedrooms Back in the Good Ol’ Days?

Were There Dead Bedrooms Back in the Good Ol’ Days?

I was recently emailed by a reader who asked me if I thought that the “Dead Bedroom” phenomenon that we see so often today has always been so common. Back in the “good ol days” of “Man works and wife stays home and depends on the man for her livelihood” … did we see...

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This Post Will Get A Ton of Clicks

This Post Will Get A Ton of Clicks

When talking to guys talking about women, I hear some variation of "It's just not fair!" again and again. "Why do I have to do all the work to attract HER?" "Why is it that women seem to rule online dating? Even the older/fatter women on there have strict guidelines...

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Responsibility and Peter Pan Syndrome

Responsibility and Peter Pan Syndrome

Somebody linked me to a video that Dr. Jordan Peterson made years ago. It’s one of many Jordan Peterson videos that I get on a regular basis. “Have you seen this?!” a reader will ask. Yeah, I probably have. Several times. I get the popularity of Jordan’s videos. He’s...

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“Lesbian Bed Death”

“Lesbian Bed Death”

Dear DSO: I’m a gay woman who really enjoyed your book (The Dead Bedroom Fix). I know it wasn’t written for me, but there was A LOT in the book that I could relate to. I think you could rewrite this and focus on lesbian couples and sell a million copies. Dead Bedrooms...

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Boundaries

Boundaries

The concept of boundaries is big, multi-faceted, and HUGELY important when it comes to relationships. There are a couple of different ways to look at boundaries. The most commonly thought of version of “boundaries” is to put proverbial walls around you and the rest of...

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ABOUT ME

Hi there, I’m the DSO (Dad Starting Over).  My story is not an unusual one. For those who just stumbled upon this site by chance and have no connection to the subject matter… it may seem a bit “out there”. Trust me… it’s common. For the rest of us, you came here for a reason: You need to hit the restart button on life and redefine what it means to be a MAN in today’s world. You need a boost up over the wall and you’re scrambling for any little nugget of wisdom that will help you climb that extra inch.

Why a restart? Well, maybe life just kicked you in the teeth. If you’re like me and millions of other grown men all over the world… you were  told “I want a divorce”, or worse… you discovered infidelity. Your entire worldview has changed. Your head is spinning. What you thought was innocent and comfortable is now twisted and scary. Welcome to the real world, my friend. I’ve been there and done that.

My philosophies and advice are not cookie-cutter. They’re not politically correct. They’re not always nice. But.. they work. They make sense. They get results.

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