DSO Coaching

Sometimes you need a little extra kick in the butt to get going in the right direction. Sometimes you just need a mentor to check in with and make some minor adjustments to your game plan. Sometimes you need to vent and let it out. Sometimes you just want to listen to somebody who has been there and done that and has the scars to prove it.

We’ve all been there.

We now have four coaches available, each with their own strengths and experiences. You may book and schedule your first coaching session below or click through to read the full biography of each coach.

Packages are sold in 1, 3 and 5 session increments (each one hour).

We are always just a message away if you need us! A form is provided below if you would like to ask any questions before booking your sessions.

PERSONAL COACHES (Click profile below for more info)

Ralph (DSO)

Ralph (DSO) - [Click here for pricing]

Hello, I am Ralph... a.k.a. "DSO". I am the founder of this website,, and author of the books, “The Dead Bedroom Fix”, “DIVORCE PANIC - A Guide for Men Starting Over in Life”, "REAL TALK - No Bullsh*t Life Advice for Young Men", and “Red Flags”. I’ve been coaching and counseling men for almost five years now on a range of different topics

Coach Jason "J" Hughes

Jason - [Click here for pricing]

Ever wonder what you are here for? What your path and purpose is in this life? I live by one phrase: full tilt, full time. I’m not here to idlily sit by and let life happen. I know exactly what I want out of situations and put the requisite amount of effort in to get exactly what I want. I will help you do the exact same thing.

Coach Scott M.

Scott M. - [Click here for pricing]

It’s not easy, But nothing worth doing ever is. If it was easy you wouldn’t be reading this right now. I’m Scott M. I’m here to show you that you have the power to be the man you yearn to be. Some that she looks up to, someone that she wants to be around, the someone that she fell in love with long ago.

Coach Austin G.

Austin G. - [Click here for pricing]

My name is Austin. I’m a former Nice Guy that has spent my entire adult life undoing bad habits and improving my weaknesses. I want to help you apply the strategies and principles that I used to give myself the marriage, career, and life I wanted. This isn’t a few easy steps… it’s a full lifestyle adjustment, but you have everything to gain. It’s time to put in the work.

Coach Scott G.

Scott G. - [Click here for pricing]

If you don’t know what’s wrong, you can’t fix it! I am Scott G (Dr. Scott) and I am here to help men enhance their masculinity, their confidence, and ultimately their lives. It is possible to be a lover and provider at the same time! I specialize in maintaining a healthy balance of the lover and provider roles.

Coach Steve W.

Steve W. - [Click here for pricing]

Feeling stuck? living a mundane existence and you feel that something isn’t quite, right? I am passionate about helping men start over. I’m Steve, born and raised in Australia with a hard working, positive attitude towards life. Do you want to achieve your goals and enjoy life more? Well, I want that for you too.

David A. - [Click here for pricing]

Las relaciones interpersonales son una ciencia. Pueden ser sencillas y complicadas al mismo tiempo, hay mucho en juego y hay muchas variables que debemos tomar en cuenta de manera constante. Nos pasamos mucho tiempo de nuestras vidas tratando de entender a las personas con las que convivimos como nuestras parejas, padres, hijos, etc., pero pocas veces hacemos el esfuerzo de entendernos y conocernos primero a nosotros mismos. Estoy convencido que ese es el inicio, todo cambio y toda mejora, comienza primero con nosotros mismos. Un camino que comencé hace muchos años y si me lo permites, es probable pueda ayudarte con el tuyo.

Coach Gustavo

Gustavo V. - [Click here for pricing]

¿Quieres encontrar al verdadero hombre que llevas a dentro? ¿Quieres tener un plan de acción para todo lo que te presente la vida? Es posible ser amante y proveedor al mismo tiempo. ¿Quieres hablar acerca de ello?

La confianza y la seguridad lo es todo cuando se trata de la vida y de las mujeres. Encontrémoslo juntos. Si estás luchando por encontrar tu propósito, la misión en la vida, si te perdiste en el camino, si estás buscando a alguien que te ayude en tu búsqueda, si estás buscando un coach para aprender a reavivar la pasión que una vez tenias con tu esposa o mujeres, yo puedo ayudarte. Trabajemos juntos para cambiar tu camino, y convertirte en la mejor versión de ti mismo.

Noor H. - [Click here for pricing]

I've hit rock bottom and climbed out a warrior, You can too!
I'm skilled in finding that fighting spirit, only if you are willing to put in the work. I'm fluent in asshole, very direct and logical. There is good in everyone unless you're a piece of shit asshole then may God save you.

Some leaders are born but most are taught. Are you ready to learn?

FITNESS COACHES (Click profile below for more info)

Coach Vance - [Click here for pricing]

I am the former head coach at the Olympic Education Center at Northern Michigan University, where I coached 16 International level competitors, including World Medalists and American Record holders. I also coached athletes to over 70 national event medals and am a designated Senior International Coach by USA Weightlifting.

Kristi Vaccaro

Kristi Vaccaro

Hey there! I am the owner of F.I.T LV Fitness and Nutrition and have been coaching for 10 years now! I am a wife, mom of two boys (2.5 & 4),an athlete, fitness enthusiast, and motivator. I have gone from a competitive dancer to a competitive powerlifter, to now a fitness entrepreneur trying to navigate motherhood, my businesses, and my own health! If anyone understands the stress of juggling work, parenting, and trying to stay fit, its ME! While many curveballs may get thrown at us daily, I love helping people find a way to integrate health and fitness into every day life. Finding that balance between cupcakes and broccoli ;). If you have goals, I can help you reach them. Having been in the fitness industry for the last decade I have had the opportunity to work with a variety of clientele. From the client looking to drop a few pounds, to the young athlete, to the postpartum mom trying to figure out how to navigate her newly changed body; I can help YOU. My experience combined with my wide range of education has given me the tools to transform your life.

Click on my profile to learn more about the four month program we have assembled for DSO Fraternity members!

Coach Tobias

23-Year Fitness Veteran & IFBB Pro Athlete Hey, I’m Tobias Young and I Will Take You To That Next Level of Fitness That You Haven’t Been Able to Reach on Your Own. It is my mission to help you to set and achieve all of your fitness goals. I am driven to help you shape and tune your body so that you can feel strong and confident while being motivated and held accountable to a higher standard of fitness. Online fitness coaching gives you the freedom to set your own schedule and pace, while providing the structure to achieve extraordinary results working a true fitness professional. Every person has fitness desires, yet only a few have the drive necessary to achieve them. If you are someone who is ready to make a commitment to your own health and fitness, then I will be dedicated to your success. I am one of the only online personal trainers that will give you complete access to one-on-one support to make sure you get the best results possible. Many of my clients have discovered what structure, expertise, and a flexible training schedule can do for their daily routine. These people have transformed their bodies and have inspired others to do the same. See how online training can allow you to achieve a lasting transformation. If you have goals, I can help you reach them. Having been in the fitness industry for the last decade I have had the opportunity to work with a variety of clientele. From the client looking to drop a few pounds, to the young athlete, to the postpartum mom trying to figure out how to navigate her newly changed body; I can help YOU. My experience combined with my wide range of education has given me the tools to transform your life.

Click on my profile to learn more about the four month program we have assembled for DSO Fraternity members!


“DSO Coaching Session was very helpful and I highly recommend talking to him to help with some of the ways you can move forward after divorce, including things like how to be the man and person you can be to have a better future for yourself. Thank you DSO!” – Jason

“I highly recommend DSO coaching for anybody in a dead bedroom or troubled marriage. I’ve been in therapy for 14 years, and I got more out of one session than all of my other therapy sessions combined. It’s nice to talk to somebody how has been there and done that.” – Michael

“Talking to you was the missing piece I needed to get on with my life. Thanks for all that you do. There are so many men out there in my shoes and I’m glad you have the tools to help them out.” – Stephen

“DSO did not tell me what I wanted to hear. I knew I should listen because everything in his book was spot on. I should have listened and saved myself more grief. He knows his stuff. He was right about my wife and situation. It helped having an outside perspective while going through my divorce. I will be booking more sessions soon. ” – Joe

“After reading (and re-reading, and re-reading) The Dead Bedroom Fix which is an absolute life changer, I decided to have some coaching sessions with DSO to help me decide if my long-term dead marriage and bedroom was salvageable or even worth salvaging. DSO is the right balance of understanding, comradery, & empathy, with a healthy dose of “C’mon, man, what the hell are you thinking?!” DSO will tell you the truth, not just what you want or hope to hear. And the truth is what we all need to move forward into a more positive future, either with our happier wives, or into divorce to find happier relationships elsewhere.” -Keith

“I signed up for life coaching with the DSO himself a few weeks back and so far the experience has been invaluable. First of all, I could not believe my luck when i saw he was offering one-on-one coaching sessions…I mean, with how busy he is, and being the author of this incredible book, and having a full time career and family of his own, i don’t really know how he makes the time. I would have expected to pay more like 1K per hour for someone of his calibre to give me his undivided attention. His guidance, and incredible listening skills help him feedback to you the very insights that you need to hear, even though they may be hard on your ego. He has a no-BS style that makes you look the hard truths in the face and tackle the issues head on. The few sessions we had have already helped me make a positive impact on strengthening my relationships (wife, and friends) and generally to be a stronger version of myself. Having DSO coach you directly will pay dividends…so invest in your life and sign up for a session or a few today, you wont regret it and will wonder why you didn’t do it sooner. Thanks DSO for dedicating yourself to helping other men, you are one awesome dude!” – F

“Holy shit. If you need someone to light a fire under your ass and want to be able to actually use that fire for more than just burning the hair off your butt, you need to do a coaching session with Jack London. I just had my first one yesterday and it was a hell of an experience. I got more out of that one hour than I did from a year of going to a therapist and marriage counseling.

Some background on me: I’m thirty four years old and have been married for four years to an awesome woman who I have consistently been acting like a beta male provider for and that’s resulted in a dead bedroom. I had previously read Way of the Superior Man and No More Mr. Nice Guy and they opened my eyes to what women really want and need from a man, but it was always tough for me to follow through with the information. I was on Amazon last week and came across DBF and when it showed up I read it one day. I couldn’t put it down, it was like talking to a good friend who was calling me out and just wanted me to get my shit together.

I was doing literally everything wrong when it came to my relationship: buying gifts constantly with the ulterior motive of expecting sex in return (didn’t happen), doing chores and then telling my wife and expecting her to tell me what a good boy I was and then fuck me (never did), I believed “Happy Wife Happy Life” was gospel and was convinced if I just kept her happy all the time she would want to fuck me more (nope), I stopped talking to all my female friends and never flirted or even checked out other chicks so she wouldn’t get jealous (still does), and worst of all I constantly told her how her not fucking me made me sad and how we need to try to have sex more (what’s the opposite of a WAP?).

In one hour, Jack was able to help me prioritize what areas of my life I need work on to get back to being the man I know I really am under this dad bod and lack of confidence. He called me out and held the mirror up to my face and honestly got me fucking pissed off at myself which was exactly what I needed. No more, “It’s not that bad.” Nah, it’s fucking bad and I’m tired of this shit. He helped me take my wife off the pedestal and remember that sex is my gift to her and not the other way around.
Best of all, he gave me a plan of action and resources so I could begin immediately to do what I now know needs to be done. He’s a hell of a coach and I’m very grateful he’s not only serving our country but also taking his time to serve the men in this community with his wisdom.

I’ll be eternally grateful to Dad Starting Over for writing the DBF and for starting this group and for bringing Jack on as coach. I know I have a long journey ahead of me but at least now I know where I am going. That’s all for now, I gotta go do some fucking pushups.” – Brian