Hi there, I’m T. H Stephen. I am married and a father of 5 children. I have been through one divorce and currently working on a marriage that may lead to another. Over the course of twenty years, I have been in and out of the courtroom fighting for custody of my children.
I had my first child when I was still in high school, and I had no relationship with her mom. My second child was also during high school, and I married the mother after we had our second child almost five years later. We divorced several years later, shortly after I left the military. I was not aware of my oldest daughter until she was four years old. By then, I had already had my second child, and not long after, my wife would become pregnant with my third, our second together.
In the years to come, I would eventually win custody of all three of my children. During which I married my current wife, who had a child of her own, and we decided to have one together. Throughout the years, I have seen the ins and outs of many lengthy court battles for custody; I have witnessed the biases against fathers in the legal system, and the ugliness that a divorce/custody dispute can bring about.
I am not a lawyer, nor have I ever taken the bar or “studied” family law. I have experienced many different court settings, the attitude, behavior, and results of an ugly divorce and custody battle. I have dealt with the difficulty of losing custody, having my children moved across the country, not knowing when I will see them, and the feeling of being powerless in a system set up in favor of mothers. I have spent countless hours working with attorneys to develop different strategies to fight for custody, read hundreds of articles on winning custody, dealings with CPS, law enforcement, and paid thousands of dollars just for the right to raise my children.
Over the course of several years, I turned my life around completely and, most importantly, won my children back. I want to help those who find themselves in a similar position and need advice or just to talk to someone. As you will find with the other coaches on this site, my advice is not politically correct. I won’t sugarcoat or dance around topics, but they get results, and they make sense.