DSO Coaching

Sometimes you need a little extra kick in the butt to get going in the right direction. Sometimes you just need a mentor to check in with and make some minor adjustments to your game plan. Sometimes you need to vent and let it out. Sometimes you just want to listen to somebody who has been there and done that and has the scars to prove it.

We’ve all been there.

We now have four coaches available, each with their own strengths and experiences. You may book and schedule your first coaching session below or click through to read the full biography of each coach.

Packages are sold in 1, 3 and 5 session increments (each one hour).

We are always just a message away if you need us! A form is provided below if you would like to ask any questions before booking your sessions.



Hello, I am DSO. I am the founder of this website, dadstartingover.com, and author of the books, “The Dead Bedroom Fix”, “NOW WHAT?”, and “Red Flags”. I’ve been coaching and counseling men for almost five years now on a range of different topics.

Jack London

Ever wonder what you are here for? What your path and purpose is in this life? I live by one phrase: full tilt, full time. I’m not here to idlily sit by and let life happen. I know exactly what I want out of situations and put the requisite amount of effort in to get exactly what I want. I will help you do the exact same thing.

Scott M

It’s not easy, But nothing worth doing ever is. If it was easy you wouldn’t be reading this right now. I’m Scott M. I’m here to show you that you have the power to be the man you yearn to be. Some that she looks up to, someone that she wants to be around, the someone that she fell in love with long ago.

T. H. Stephen

Hi there, I’m T. H. Stephen. I am married and a father of 5 children. I have been through one divorce and currently working on a marriage that may lead to another. Over the course of twenty years, I have been in and out of the courtroom fighting for custody of my children.

Austin G.

My name is Austin. I’m a former Nice Guy that has spent my entire adult life undoing bad habits and improving my weaknesses. I want to help you apply the strategies and principles that I used to give myself the marriage, career, and life I wanted. This isn’t a few easy steps… it’s a full lifestyle adjustment, but you have everything to gain. It’s time to put in the work.

Scott G.

If you don’t know what’s wrong, you can’t fix it!  I am Scott G (Dr. Scott) and I am here to help men enhance their masculinity, their confidence, and ultimately their lives. 

It is possible to be a lover and provider at the same time.  I take pride in specializing in maintaining a healthy balance between the two.


Coach Vance

I am the former head coach at the Olympic Education Center at Northern Michigan University, where I coached 16 International level competitors, including World Medalists and American Record holders. I also coached athletes to over 70 national event medals and am a designated Senior International Coach by USA Weightlifting.



“DSO Coaching Session was very helpful and I highly recommend talking to him to help with some of the ways you can move forward after divorce, including things like how to be the man and person you can be to have a better future for yourself. Thank you DSO!” – Jason

“I highly recommend DSO coaching for anybody in a dead bedroom or troubled marriage. I’ve been in therapy for 14 years, and I got more out of one session than all of my other therapy sessions combined. It’s nice to talk to somebody how has been there and done that.”  – Michael

“Talking to you was the missing piece I needed to get on with my life. Thanks for all that you do. There are so many men out there in my shoes and I’m glad you have the tools to help them out.” – Stephen

“DSO did not tell me what I wanted to hear. I knew I should listen because everything in his book was spot on. I should have listened and saved myself more grief. He knows his stuff. He was right about my wife and situation. It helped having an outside perspective while going through my divorce. I will be booking more sessions soon. ” – Joe

“After reading (and re-reading, and re-reading) The Dead Bedroom Fix which is an absolute life changer, I decided to have some coaching sessions with DSO to help me decide if my long-term dead marriage and bedroom was salvageable or even worth salvaging.  DSO is the right balance of understanding, comradery, & empathy, with a healthy dose of “C’mon, man, what the hell are you thinking?!”  DSO will tell you the truth, not just what you want or hope to hear. And the truth is what we all need to move forward into a more positive future, either with our happier wives, or into divorce to find happier relationships elsewhere.”  -Keith

“I signed up for life coaching with the DSO himself a few weeks back and so far the experience has been invaluable.  First of all, I could not believe my luck when i saw he was offering one-on-one coaching sessions…I mean, with how busy he is, and being the author of this incredible book, and having a full time career and family of his own, i don’t really know how he makes the time.  I would have expected to pay more like 1K per hour for someone of his calibre to give me his undivided attention.  His guidance, and incredible listening skills help him feedback to you the very insights that you need to hear, even though they may be hard on your ego. He has a no-BS style that makes you look the hard truths in the face and tackle the issues head on.  The few sessions we had have already helped me make a positive impact on strengthening my relationships (wife, and friends) and generally to be a stronger version of myself.  Having DSO coach you directly will pay dividends…so invest in your life and sign up for a session or a few today, you wont regret it and will wonder why you didn’t do it sooner.  Thanks DSO for dedicating yourself to helping other men, you are one awesome dude!”  – F

“Holy shit. If you need someone to light a fire under your ass and want to be able to actually use that fire for more than just burning the hair off your butt, you need to do a coaching session with Jack London. I just had my first one yesterday and it was a hell of an experience. I got more out of that one hour than I did from a year of going to a therapist and marriage counseling.

Some background on me: I’m thirty four years old and have been married for four years to an awesome woman who I have consistently been acting like a beta male provider for and that’s resulted in a dead bedroom. I had previously read Way of the Superior Man and No More Mr. Nice Guy and they opened my eyes to what women really want and need from a man, but it was always tough for me to follow through with the information. I was on Amazon last week and came across DBF and when it showed up I read it one day. I couldn’t put it down, it was like talking to a good friend who was calling me out and just wanted me to get my shit together.

I was doing literally everything wrong when it came to my relationship: buying gifts constantly with the ulterior motive of expecting sex in return (didn’t happen), doing chores and then telling my wife and expecting her to tell me what a good boy I was and then fuck me (never did), I believed “Happy Wife Happy Life” was gospel and was convinced if I just kept her happy all the time she would want to fuck me more (nope), I stopped talking to all my female friends and never flirted or even checked out other chicks so she wouldn’t get jealous (still does), and worst of all I constantly told her how her not fucking me made me sad and how we need to try to have sex more (what’s the opposite of a WAP?).

In one hour, Jack was able to help me prioritize what areas of my life I need work on to get back to being the man I know I really am under this dad bod and lack of confidence. He called me out and held the mirror up to my face and honestly got me fucking pissed off at myself which was exactly what I needed. No more, “It’s not that bad.” Nah, it’s fucking bad and I’m tired of this shit. He helped me take my wife off the pedestal and remember that sex is my gift to her and not the other way around.
Best of all, he gave me a plan of action and resources so I could begin immediately to do what I now know needs to be done. He’s a hell of a coach and I’m very grateful he’s not only serving our country but also taking his time to serve the men in this community with his wisdom.

I’ll be eternally grateful to Dad Starting Over for writing the DBF and for starting this group and for bringing Jack on as coach. I know I have a long journey ahead of me but at least now I know where I am going. That’s all for now, I gotta go do some fucking pushups.” – Brian

Listen to Actual Coaching Sessions Below (recorded and posted with the client’s permission):

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