MARRIAGE

Weakness

Weakness

The concept of "sucking it up" and "being a man" didn't just fall from the sky. They are axioms that have been passed down from generation to generation. They evolved naturally as a response to the community's needs and expectations. Men who have been around the block...

Stop Blaming The “Other Man”

Stop Blaming The “Other Man”

I find myself reading relationship-oriented forums and message boards. It's a good way for me to reply to dudes in need ... and also a good way to generate traffic to my website and possible book sales (just being honest). One thing you see when you frequent these...

Kids

Kids

Romance killers come in many forms. One or both of you gets out of shape. Husband becomes a more agreeable pushover (more feminine). Wife becomes a more disagreeable tyrant (more masculine). Illness Stress One that everyone seems to overlook is, from my experience,...

You can’t trust yourself. Take time to heal.

You can’t trust yourself. Take time to heal.

While I was married to my first wife,  I used to cherish the rare moments I would get alone. During those quiet moments, I was able to re-calibrate and get a sense of self that I couldn't have with three screaming kids, a nagging wife and all that work. A day to just...

You can’t beat emotion. Stop trying.

You can’t beat emotion. Stop trying.

On this site, my most popular podcasts and articles are by far the ones dealing with Dead Bedrooms. The next most popular topics are about Infidelity. On the way more popular website Talk About Marriage, the two most popular "focused" topics are "Coping with...

“My wife wouldn’t do that.”

“My wife wouldn’t do that.”

When I talk about my own personal "awakening" during post-divorce life,  I usually mean in terms of recognizing the underlying truths in relationships and the psychology of my fellow humans, ladies in particular. Accepting REALITY and not what SHOULD be, in other...

Lying

Lying

The most insidious and oft-overlooked red flag in the giant book of red flags is without a doubt LYING. Lying is so pervasive that we even have a term for the more "innocent" ones: "little white lies". How about "fib"? Sounds like a name for a little hamster. Fibster....

Baggage

Baggage

Here's a common term in the world of relationships: BAGGAGE. "Baggage" is another word for all the negative shit that happened to you in the past and that is presumably deeply embedded in your psyche and ready to bubble up at a moment's notice.  After a marriage...

My Story – Part 2 – My Holy Shit Moment Has Arrived

My Story – Part 2 – My Holy Shit Moment Has Arrived

So my wife starts working with the personal trainer. She literally spends at least 2 hours each day at the gym.. and longer on weekends. How the hell does she accomplish this? She gets up at 4:00am every single day. This is her mission now.  This is on top of her very...

My Story – Part 1 – The Beginning

My Story – Part 1 – The Beginning

Things I hear a lot from guys online: "Well, did YOU ever run into this..." or "What did YOU do when this happened to you?" I just realized,...I never really did share my full story with the world. I hinted at it a bit in the About Me page,  but I haven't gone into...

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