No, a sexless Marriage should not be considered "normal"

There are A LOT of men out there not happy with the level of intimacy in their marriage.

What is going on? Is the tried-and-true stereotype of the frustrated husband and the cold, bossy wife inevitable? Are monogamous relationships doomed to such a pitiful state? Is that just the way marriage is supposed to be?

I DON’T THINK SO.

The Dead Bedroom Fix

MEN: Are you in a dead bedroom? Divorced and don't want to go through that nightmare again? YOU'RE NOT ALONE.

There are A LOT of men out there not happy with the level of intimacy in their marriage.

What is going on? Is the tried-and-true stereotype of the frustrated husband and the cold, bossy wife inevitable? Are monogamous relationships doomed to such a pitiful state? Is that just the way marriage is supposed to be?

I DON’T THINK SO.

To make a long story short, several years ago I was married for 15 years, found out that my wife was cheating, quickly divorced, and found myself newly single and sharing custody of three little kids. I then started a website at dadstartingover.com. After chatting with many men in my situation, I slowly started to notice patterns of behavior. Most men experienced long “Dead Bedroom” periods in their relationship prior to their divorce. Many of these men later discovered infidelity. It’s no coincidence that the two go hand-in-hand. The wife wanted intimacy, too. Just not with her husband.

I wrote about my thoughts on Dead Bedrooms on my website and it is by far the most popular topic to date. It has outranked all other topics combined. I have since started a podcast. The Dead Bedroom episodes are the most downloaded.

Simply put, nobody seems to know what to do to keep the fire going in their long-term relationship. Most of us experience a “honeymoon phase” of intimacy, and then watch it quickly fade as the stress of life/kids and the boredom of familiarity settle in.

It honestly doesn’t have to be this way.

I don’t claim to have all the answers for a happy married life. What I do know is that my own experience (eight very happy and very satisfying years in my new relationship) and the experience of hundreds of other men I have interviewed have helped to create a prescription for what I feel is the only true, honest, no bullsh*t way to get your wife jumping your bones again. It works for me and for thousands of other men just like you.

I have finally put that prescription down on paper, and I call it The Dead Bedroom Fix.

My readers are fixers and they have tried everything under the sun to light a fire in their wife again. Some have already lost their marriage battle and don’t want to go down that awful road again. What they all tell me: The Dead Bedroom Fix is the best, no bullsh*t, no fluff, no nonsense guide to getting your SELF, and consequently, your love life back on track.

It just works.

What’s inside the book?

WHO THIS BOOK IS FOR

This book was written for heterosexual men in long-term monogamous relationships who want more sex.

BEFORE WE GET STARTED

Let’s get some important things out of the way…

MY STORY

I’m a 40-something divorced dad of three kids. I care for my kids four days a week…

YES, I MARRIED AGAIN

So, what’s different this time around? Anything? Oooooh yeah, it’s different, alright.

Chapter 1: What is a dead bedroom?

The “Dead Bedroom” is just what it sounds like: A monogamous romantic relationship with little to no sexual activity between the two partners.

chapter 2: the common mistakes

We all know the tried-and-true stereotype of the nervous guy showing up to the first date with flowers…

chapter 3: "NICE GUYS" finish last

The Five Mistakes All Have One Thing in Common. Their methods and expected outcomes are not grounded in reality.

Chapter 4: Be her lover

…when we finally land a woman and marry her, the universal understanding is that you must now flip the scales in favor of Provider mode.

chapter 5: this is manipulation!

If you ever find yourself talking about how to be a better man, or more specifically, how to be more successful with women, you will probably hear something like the following: “That’s manipulation. You’re being fake.”

chapter 6: "Holy sh*t. It worked."

It took months of difficult changes on your part… but you finally did it.

Chapter 7: it didn't work

I’m Not Going to Bullsh*t You. All Your Hard Work May Not Result in Sex from Your Wife.

frequently asked questions

After writing the first edition of The Dead Bedroom Fix, I receive A LOT of emails from readers. Here are a few of the most common ones…

reader stories

I thought I would share some of the stories from readers of the first edition of The Dead Bedroom Fix. Do you have your own story to share?

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WHAT READERS OF "THE DEAD BEDROOM FIX" HAVE TO SAY:

About the Author

Hello, my name is Ralph, but you may know me as “DSO”, the founder of Dad Starting Over and the DSO Fraternity. I’m 47, married for the second time, and father of four kids. I learned a lot from my failed first marriage, my wonderful second marriage, and from the thousands of men I communicate with in coaching sessions and online in our DSO Fraternity discussion groups. This book, “The Dead Bedroom Fix” is a culmination of the knowledge that has been passed down to me over the years. I hope you learn a great deal from it. Please let me know what you think!

Ralph - DSO

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