AND HOW TO FIX IT!
I wrote this book, "Why Sex Ends After Kids And How To Fix It!", to help men understand the challenges of maintaining a sexy, intimate connection with their wife... while enduring the trials of having children. There's no doubt about it: Having kids is one of the most common causes for reducing sexual frequency between a couple.
This book takes the reader through the emotional and mental journey of pregnancy and motherhood and how the rollercoaster ride can and will affect the wife in ways that the husband may not appreciate. I will also outline the all the ways that men typically react to these very normal changes, and how these reactions can further kill the intimacy in the bedroom.
When done with this book, the reader will have a blueprint that will lead to the promise land of consistent sexual attraction. He will have the tools he needs to overcome the very normal and understandable hurdles of parenthood and new children in the home.
This book teaches men to be the strong masculine leader that their family needs, while improving themselves on their journey of life.
INTRODUCTION
You’re reading this book because you’ve had it. You’re married and you’re a father, or there’s one on the way, and things just aren’t the same in the bedroom.
THE SHIFT FROM LOVER TO MOTHER
This book is going to address the issues that cause your sexual relationship to go south after you and your wife become parents. It’ll start with pregnancy and new babies, address the impact of raising young kids and teenagers, and of course how all these conditions affect your wife.
CHILDREN REPLACE HUSBAND
Everything changes the day that your wife gets her first positive pregnancy test, and not just the obvious changes in priorities and lifestyle.
THE BEST ROLE FOR THE OCCASION
The first thing to know about your roles is that they aren’t all for your wife. (Side note: as you’ll learn in future chapters, the overall work you’re doing to fix your marriage isn’t for your wife, either, but let’s hold off on that.)
MEN GET COMFORTABLE
Go to work, feed the dog, get the kids to bed, fix the sink, look forward to a TV show and kicking your feet up on the couch. Live for the weekend when you can cook out with some friends and have a few beers.
INDIVIDUALITY
All she cares about are the kids. I come last.”
“I try to be affectionate, but it just pisses her off.”
“It’s like she’s purposely loving on my son in front of me and knows it kills me because she hasn’t cared for me like that in years.”
“I’m at work all day and when I get home my wife still doesn’t pay me any attention.”
AFFECTION
Affection is one of the most important topics of this book because it is a daily demonstration of the best and worst parts of a relationship. We might think it only communicates our attraction, but it also contains our resentments and reveals our weaknesses.
LEADING THE FAMILY
In the years since waking up to my own shortcomings at home, I’ve developed an overwhelming nausea around men who talk about their wives as the “boss” at home. If you ask them what they’re doing this weekend, they have to ask the boss.
PRIORITIZING RELATIONSHIP AND FAMILY
Why is she acting this way?
Nobody cares.
You will detach.
My name is Austin. I’m a former Nice Guy that has spent my entire adult life undoing bad habits and improving my weaknesses. I want to help you apply the strategies and principles that I used to give myself the marriage, career, and life I wanted. This isn’t a few easy steps… it’s a full lifestyle adjustment, but you have everything to gain. It’s time to put in the work.
I’m living, breathing proof that the least confident, most afraid individual can retrain themselves to be an assertive leader that demands the respect of everyone they interact with. As a former US Marine Officer, I learned leadership from the best in the world. As a Solution Architect, I’m tested daily for my ability to listen to complex problems and provide a path forward to a unique solution. After 10 years of marriage, I turned everything around into a strong, fulfilling relationship, while being an awesome dad to a toddler.
Organize your issues with your marriage, career, finances, etc., and come prepared to work and be vulnerable. You’re going to get a raw, no-bullshit analysis of your situation, a short and long-term plan, and homework to get you moving in the right direction immediately.
Stop settling for less than ideal and take the first step to the best version of you and what you really want out of life.
Book coaching time with Austin today!
