How can you make sure you don’t make the mistakes that millions of other men have made? How do you avoid a relationship that will leave your wallet empty, your heart broken and a house full of kids that will make the same relationship mistakes their dad made?
You learn from those that have been there and done that. That’s what “RED FLAGS” is all about.
I’ve compiled a list of the top 20 red flags that should make you pause and want to find out more about the woman you’re dating BEFORE you call her “girlfriend”.
This book is for men that are either new to the relationship game, starting over after a divorce, overcoming a bad breakup, or just want to get a refresher on what to look out for when searching for “the one”. If you find yourself saying, “Ideally, I’d like to settle down with one woman for the rest of my life”, then you have found the right book.
Finding a woman that will be a good sexual partner is not that tough. Many men jump from woman to woman and get their sexual needs met with regular casual sex.
Finding a woman that will be a great friend is not tough. Most of us have platonic friends, both male and female.
Finding a woman that will help you raise a child is not tough. There are plenty of family members, nannies and childcare workers out there ready to help.
Finding a woman that will help care for you when your health goes south is not tough. This is why we have nurses and doctors, after all.
Finding ONE woman that will gladly do ALL of those things AND stick by you until the day you die is extremely tough. It’s like winning the lottery.
We all know this. That’s why you will hear so many people that are in marriages say, “If you find somebody that checks all of those boxes, hang on to them for dear life. Do not let them go. That is such a special and rare thing to find in life.” What they don’t tell you is that is just ONE part of the “picking a life partner” equation. The other part of the equation is what this book is all about. It’s about watching out for those signs that years down the line lead to a lot of heartaches and very difficult times.
One thing I hear from a lot of readers I talk to: “Where were you ten years ago?!” I have no magic formula. I’m no genius. All I did was sit down and look at their problem with a new set of eyes. I started at the beginning of the story. “Tell me about your wife”. This is when the unraveling begins. This is when the curtain is pulled back and the poor reader is left with his head in his hands mumbling, “How could I have been so stupid?”
Consider this book a crash course in the stock market of love and relationships. Before you start spending money, just like in the real-life stock market, it’s best that you learn the ins and outs of the investment game. You need to know what you’re up against. You need to know that the anonymous random stockbroker that called you and said that he has a “hot lead on a stock that is ready to take off” does not have your best interests in mind. He’s a shark. He smells blood in the water. You came up on his call list and he’s going in for the kill. Or… maybe he is legitimate. Maybe the call is a genuine opportunity to make good money. How do you know the difference?
Time and experience. Wisdom.
That’s what I hope you get from this book. Wisdom.